Individuals are Life
One evening, I felt like playing a board game, but there was no one around. I considered playing solitaire, but I didn’t feel like it. It was too late to call anyone more than or to go somewhere else. So I attempted an experiment. I laid out the board game and played it without any help as four different people. You can’t do this with every board game, and since most board games require some strategy or secrecy on the part of each participant, you really can’t do it with almost any board game. But I did it nevertheless. It was interesting. And I won, in addition. But it wasn’t very much fun. Doing offers is not fun because of the game, but because of playing it with other people.
My brothers and am and their families try to get in an excellent bit of day hiking, back packing, and bike riding in the hot months. Sometimes we stand around and stare at each other mainly because we can’t figure out where to go. We’ve been to most of the places that are easy to get to. I’ve told them that I don’t care where we move. I’ll go to the same place 3 times in a summer. I’ll go to the exact same place six times in a line. It’s not the place. It’s who I’m doing it with. I wouldn’t move water skiing or back packing with a bunch of strangers. Some would. I had a friend who went all over the world to visit scuba diving, and he didn’t care exactly who he did it with. In fact , the excursion companies required that the divers paired up as “buddies”, but right after he was in the water, he proceeded to go where he wanted and did exactly what he wanted with no regard designed for his “buddy”. I don’t think I might enjoy diving by myself. I would want someone there to share the pleasure of seeing a fish yet another kind of animal or plant I had never seen before.
Life is about people. Other people could cause a lot of our problems, but others also provide most of our happiness, our own excitement, and our feelings that will life is worthwhile, and we should assistance and love them, and not be abusive of them in any way.
A happy and successful a lot more not as much about wealth, accomplishment, effectiveness, appearance, sex, possessions, fashion, journey, and entertainment as it is about people. There are people who consider themselves effective, and fool themselves into believing they are happy, who have alienated plus antagonized the people in their lives to access that point. None of us who are good and intelligent would consider all of them successful nor happy in any education. Wealth, accomplishment, efficiency, appearance, sex, possessions, fashion, travel, and enjoyment are all important, but not at the expenditure of people and their feelings plus their freedom. In fact all those matters are easier and better if we get them and enjoy them with other people and because of other people.
I hear stories of people fighting more than their parents’ possessions when the mother and father die. I hear stories of kids feeling threatened when one of their particular parents remarries after the death of some other parent. I hear stories of people getting wealthy and alienating on their own from their siblings. I would rather reside in a tent and eat insects than alienate any of my brothers or my sister. I would not really trade them for money.
In business, we can treat employees as if they are equipment. We can expect them to do the same things day after day plus churn out the same predictable results. Achievement doesn’t come that way.
In a family, we can try to pressure children to act the way we think they need to act. We can bribe them to get good grades in school. We can demand that they go to college where we think they should go to college and that they be a doctor or a lawyer, or stick to us in our professions. We can psychologically punish them if they comport in ways that embarrass us or that will seem out of keeping with “the way things are done in this household. ” Happiness doesn’t come this way.
In a marriage, we are able to have a fit, and nag plus complain to get things our way. We can be critical of our partners to try to get them to stop being therefore critical. We can punish our partners in many ways if they don’t act the way in which we want them to or treat us the way we feel we should have to be treated. Only failure may result.
Fact: Individuals are free. Trying to take away people’s freedom leads to failure.
Fact: Fun without other people isn’t really fun.
Fact: An excellent life is good because of people.
Fact: Success is not possible without working with and sharing with other people.