The particular Darkness of Amnesia
The particular earthy handshake is the imprimatur of the confident man
who has invested many successful years
showing that building an international business and
laboring with ones fingers tilling the earth are compatible.
The strength of the vice like grasp communicates friendship, loyalty,
a recognition of lives shared together. Love in its purest type.
Often times a two handed shake, a pat in the back, a jocular
“how are you doing”?
Conversations lend themselves to listening to reminisces of his past. His child years.
Business accomplishments. Achievements in the Korean war. Friends of several decades stop at the
dinning table and say hello. When they pass, he sits in silence. Expressionless. Then
a sad question – I’ve known that person for many years. What exactly is their
name? The question is recurring many times in the next 5 minutes or so
What is their name?
So it goes, this innovator in the community is slipping into the darkness. Grappling
to hold on to actuality. Sometimes aware that his memory is disappearing, other times not.
How does one cope? Family and friends try to maintain an upbeat mood. To hide their
sadness and stress. To be protective of this once huge of a man from the
whispers of those who suspect, but do not understand.
The enveloping darkness becomes more pervasive. Their eyes have that distant, lost
look of a walker disoriented in the forest. Which way to the nearest logging road?
What is our obligation to friends and family who are slipping away?
We stand outside in the chilly Wisconsin snow peering through the foggy windows of his bedroom.
Each day it becomes more difficult in order to glimpse a clear picture of who else he is and what
Will be he becoming. We so wish to protect him from self injuries, from the pain that comes with loneliness.
As infants, we are cuddled, and protected. No questions asked. It is a natural action
to aid the newborn. Can we go less for our informed brothers and sisters?
Protecting them. Shielding yourself from feelings of helplessness plus being embarrassed
when our friend Is seemingly lost whilst we are together in public.
Strongly supporting a friend in need of the caring hug, even when they don’t know they are being helped is a meaningful obligation.
Christ said bring the little children to me. Childhood is not really defined by age. Let us cover our arms around those who have given us of themselves and are at this point helpless and alone in this world.
Meet with the person about whom you are concerned. Be type, gentle, and listen to them